Learn to Love yourself. Solitude is better than Bad relationship.

PC: Clicked from Nokia 8(2017) by Ankur Aadarsh Rai

We as a human being have become so much dependent on others that, for some, they cannot even break a breath without their friends. We have become so dependent that if a particular person is unavailable or unreachable, our whole life comes to a pit-stop. We are not able to do certain work. Have you wondered why that person is so much important in your life? Have you ever thought of doing the work without the help of that person?

The Bribe Bullying:-

Nowadays everyone is chasing money and not his dreams. There is a weird obsession between youngster these days about showing off. Funky hairstyle, hunky body, muscular bikes, and no helmets. 

A page from my Journal.

Dear Diary,

Today one of my close ones got caught in the police checking for not wearing a helmet. He was carrying a helmet but it was resting on his forearm. His father came to know about this incident. Immediately his father called one of his relatives, who was not so close. He belongs to a political party. He soon reached the incident scene. Even seeing a political person the police did not step back. The negotiation for his mistake had already started. The starting bid was ₹2000. Both the sides were bargaining according to their limit. The bidding ended at ₹500. The relative paid the bribe and then my close one went his way.

What is the use of carrying a helmet and not using it?
Do you love yourself?
Do you care about yourself?

If you are not wearing a helmet, then you have to pay the price. In this incident, by God's grace, it was only money. First, the peer pressure stops us from following safety rules. We are dependent on the compliments of others. Second, We are so dependent on some people, whom we don't even talk to and remember when such situations arrive. Third, the police are dependent on the bribe.

One of my relative, who happens to be a policeman, accepted in front of my family that he does not even have to touch his salary. Whatever he spends is earned by the bribe that he gets.

We on a personal level need to understand that paying the bribe is not a heroic act. You are not paying a fine, you are paying a life insurance premium, touchwood until something happens.

Do one thing, when you follow traffic rules and use your safety equipment for one week. Go out and treat yourself with the money that you would have paid in bribe. The problem is not due to corrupt police but due to the corrupt thinking of you, me and probably everyone.

Why I explained this elaborately is the reason that we do not love our self. You Do Not Love Yourself. You do not care about your family. You do not know the importance in others life.

The State of Negligence:-

You have a best friend from day 1 of your life until the day you close your eyes forever. No that's not your MOM. She knows only a few versions of character/personality. You know that you have different versions of your character or personality for each and every single individual that you meet. Only and only you know each and every version of yourself and that's what makes everyone unique from each other.

You know the every hi & low of yourself. You just have to know your flaws and strength. You have to focus on your strength and try every day to make it better & better. The flaws should be taken care of and also it should be reduced.

We always keep neglecting our self. We do not have confidence in us. We do not know our worth. one negative statement, from a person that we believe in, shatters our confidence. We start feeling worthless. We start neglecting our feelings and do what we necessarily do not need to do. You are believing in the philosophy of a person who does not even know what you are. He does not know what you are. You believe him because you do not know yourself either.

You should have confidence in yourself and you should take a risk. There is a dialogue in the movie 3 Idiots in which Rancho ask that if Sachin Tendulkar's father would have told him to become a singer or if Lata Mangeshkar's mother would have told her to become a cricketer, imagine where they would have been now.

Equally, what if you have an interest in something else that you are not doing.What if you are interested in writing stuff. You are just not pursuing it because someone told you that a writer has no future. You will not earn a decent amount. Then you dropped the idea of becoming a writer and went to your regular and boring 9 to 5 job.

Found Yourself? Now learn to love yourself.

The only person that you can trust is you. You are the only person who can truly love yourself. When you know yourself, You start liking yourself. When you do things that you thought were out of your league, you start to feel confident and gain trust. The moment you know the difference between being lonely and solitude is the moment you start loving yourself.

Being lonely means that you have no one to stand by yourself. You feel a heart-shaped hollow in your chest. You begin to hate your life and yourself. You start to question your worth. But in solitude, you know that you do not have to depend on anyone for your living. You do not care if you are with someone or not. You enjoy your companionship. You know what you are worth doing. You know to maintain distance from people with negative thoughts.

Entering the world of solitude is a wonderful experience. You do not care if someone is with you or not. You love yourself. You know what you need to do and how to achieve what you have dreamt. You think about yourself. You know whats good and bad for you. You care for yourself. You organize yourself for you, not others. You look appealing to yourself. This List can go on and on.

That is because I have experienced Solitude very closely. I can proudly say that I am in the Solitude state. I am enjoying it. I have so much time to follow what I need to do. I have so much time to learn and build a new hobby. I can probably do whatever I like. I can go to movies and dine by myself alone. I do not feel awkward at all.

Conclusion:-

You are the master of the body and you have forgotten it. You need to control your body to find yourself. If you cannot love yourself, how do you expect to love others? If you do not have control over emotion, how will you control hate and jealousy?

You need to experience Solitude. Then only you will know that you never needed that person. You can be independent. A single person's comment will not shake your confidence. You know you need to do that not to please others but to please yourself. We have forgotten to live for our self. We have forgotten that our opinion in our life matters the most. No one can show you the right path unless your vision is clear. Not just water clear but crystal clear.

Learn to Love Yourself and Teach Others.

Do you know how to find yourself?

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